
Resources
Additional Resources
Books related to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (my model):
Created For Connection: The “Hold Me Tight” Guide for Christian Couples – Sue Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Dummies – Brent Bradley and James Furrow
An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us – Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Jennifer Fitzgerald
Other books that I’ve found helpful for couples:
How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage (Christian) – Milan and Kay Yerkovich
After the Affair – Janis Abrahms Spring and Michael Spring
Boundaries(Christian) – Henry Cloud
Codependent No More – Melody Beattie
Escaping Toxic Guilt – Susan Carrell
Emotional Blackmail – Susan Forward
The Betrayal Bond – Patrick Carnes
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids – Laura Markham
Love and Logic – Book Series by Foster Cline and Jim Fay, additional information at www.loveandlogic.com
1-2-3 Magic (2-12 year olds) – Thomas Phelan
Parenting From the Inside Out – Daniel Siegel
No-Drama Discipline – Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
How to Talk so Kids will Listen and How to Listen so Kids will Talk – Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
How to Talk so Teens will Listen and How to Listen so Teens will Talk – Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
TiLT Parenting – Debbie Reber (podcast, blog and newsletter for parent's raising "differently wired" kids)
Seth Perler - Excutive Function Coach (information for parents and children with executive function challenges)
Parents Helping Parents– help for parents with special needs children
Waking the Tiger – Peter Levine
I Can’t Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors – Aphrodite Matsakis
The Betrayal Bond – Patrick Carnes (help for relational trauma and abuse)
Kara - Grief support for children, teens, families and adults (Palo Alto, CA)
The Year of Magical Thinking – Joan Didion
A Parent's Guide to Raising Grieving Children: Rebuilding Your Family after the Death of a Loved One – Phyllis Rolfe Silverman
The Invisible String – Patrice Karst (children's book)
How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies – Therese A. Rando
Living Like You Mean It – Ronald Frederick
It’s Not Always Depression – Hilary Jacobs Hendel
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – Nathaniel Branden
The Happiness Trap – Russ Harris
Anxiety, Phobias, and Panic – Reneau Peurifoy
Stress Free for Good – Fred Luskin and Kenneth Pelletier
The How of Happiness – Sonja Lyubomirsky
Overcoming Depression One Step at a Time – Michael Addis and Christopher Martell
Overcoming Depression – Paul Gilbert
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life – Mark Manson (This book is not for those who are uncomfortable with profanity. If that doesn’t bother you, Mark makes some good points in an original way.)
Emotion and Physical Pain
Unlearn Your Pain – Howard Schubiner MD and Michael Betzold
When the Body Says No – Gabor Maté
Personality:
Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life is Your Hidden Strength – Laurie Helgoe
Please Understand Me – David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates
Living Like You Mean It – Ronald Frederick
It’s Not Always Depression – Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise – Jane Middelton-Moz
Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control – Allan E. Mallinger and Jeannette Dewyze.
How to Have your Cake and your Skinny Jeans Too – Josie Spinardi (Excellent guide on intuitive eating if you ignore the emphasis on “skinny”)
Overcoming Overeating – Jane R. Hirschmann & Carol H. Munter
Addict In The Family – Beverly Conyers
Everything Changes: Help for Families of Newly Recovering Addicts – Beverly Conyers
It Will Never Happen To Me – Claudia Black (for children of alcoholics)
Sober Siblings: How to Help Your Alcoholic Brother or Sister-and Not Lose Yourself – Patricia Olsen, Petros Levounis M.D.
Willpower Is Not Enough – Arnold Washton
Boundaries(Christian) – Henry Cloud
Codependent No More – Melody Beattie
Calm - Free app for meditation and relaxation
Insight Timer - Free app for mediation and relaxation
Free app: Relax and Sleep Well by Glenn Harrold
Spire Stress Management Device (Bio-Feedback Using the Breath)
Inner Balance Device (Bio-Feedback using Heart-Rate Variability)
Meditation Oasis Podcast – Free podcast about meditation and other interesting material
Mindfulness for Beginners – Jon Kabat-Zinn, Audio CD
Guided Mindfulness Meditation: A Complete Program – Jon Kabat-Zinn, Audio CD
Mindful Stretching / Exercise to reduce anxiety and stress:
Yoga with Adriene – Adriene Mishler (free)
Yoga for Your Week – Rodney Yee (DVD)
A.M. and P.M. Yoga For Beginners – Rodney Yee (DVD)
The Ultimate Yogi(Advanced Yoga) – Travis Eliot (DVD set)
Yoga Journal’s Beginning Yoga Step by Step– Yoga Journal (DVD set)
The art of being yourself – Caroline McHugh
What I learned from 100 days of rejection – Jia Jiang
The less you own, the more you have – Angela Horn
The power of vulnerability – Brene Brown
A few other short videos that I have found to be helpful:
Empathy (An RSA Short) – Brene Brown
Blame (An RSA Short) – Brene Brown
Why we behave the worst in the relationships that matter the most:
The “stillface experiment” in this clip shows what happens for an infant (and in all of us, just in a more adult version!) when we feel disconnected from those we love.